Dear friends, I know that maybe many of you, especially women, think that Islam encourages polygamy and it might make you unhappy. Moreover, the verse regarding polygamy is directly written in the Koran.

But I understand, who is the woman who wants her love to be shared?

Does Islam look down on the love of women?

Friends, the verses of polygamy in the Koran are as follows:

“If you are worried that you cannot do justice to the orphaned girls, then marry the girls you like, two, three or four. Then if you are worried that it is unfair (in providing a living and dividing the day among them), then marry only one woman or marry the bondwoman you have. That is closer to not doing persecution. ” (QS. Annisa: 3)

Is that verse you are worried about?

Friends, look at the verse in full, where clearly the points are as follows:

1. Obviously, one is not married to a beautiful woman, or rich, or who makes the first wife feel very jealous. The ones who marry are female orphans.
2. If a man is worried that he will not be able to do justice to his wives if he has more than one wife, then marry only one woman.

Even to reduce the anxiety of women, Allah said in another verse:

“And you will never be able to do justice to (your) wives, even though you really want to do so, so don’t be too inclined (to those you love), so that you leave the others adrift. And if you make improvisations and maintain yourself (from cheating), then verily Allah is Forgiving, Most Merciful. ” (QS. Annisa: 3)

In this verse it is emphasized that men will not do justice to their wives. So what is the reason if a man wants to polygamy only out of lust?

But, but… why in the time of the prophet even the prophet Muhammad himself had more than one wife?

Dear friend who loved by Allah Ta’ala, keep in mind that marrying wives more than one actually has existed since the time before the Qur’an was revealed.

And keep in mind also, the Prophet Muhammad never polygamy as long as his first wife was still alive. He also did polygamy not with lust because he was a prophet, while the prophet was a very noble human being.

It is like, if we want to care for a elderly person of different gender, of course it is different from raising an orphan who is still an infant. So in order to avoid gossip between neighbors, the elderly should be married in order to be lawful and we can nurture them as freely as we want, without having to worry about our wife becoming excessively jealous. And by being married, we are free from oblique issues from society regarding our relationship with the elderly.